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09-22-2009, 11:43 PM
Julie Motz;
Good guy or stealthy bad guy ? I dont know yet, but I like it so far after reading these excerpts.
http://juliemotz.com/Home_Page.html
excerpt below from
http://juliemotz.com/Groups.html
INSOMNIA
I've been thinking with increasing frustration about all the misguided attempts to cure insomnia - the sleep clinics, the sleeping pills, the "scientific" studies, etc. No one ever asks the sufferer, "What was going on in your family at night when you were lying in bed, trying to sleep?" Or, even more pointedly, "Who might have come into your room at night to disturb your sleep when you were a child?"
In my experience insomnia is very often a symptom of childhood sexual abuse. It is tension in the body that keeps people watchful and awake - the tension of tendons frozen in place trying to keep muscles from moving. The movement would bring to consciousness memories of what really happened at night - and these memories are forbidden by the need to survive in the family which we carry with us long after we are grown.
"FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILDREN"
My mother kept my father by keeping his secrets – superficially that he was a Communist but more profoundly that he was molesting his children.
I now believe that many people who fight bitterly or are clearly unhappy with each other but stay together “for the sake of the children” are doing so because at least one of them is molesting the children and the other has tacitly agreed to keep the secret.
THE ROOTS OF COMPETITION
Competition begins in the womb at the moment of implantation when a mother is ambivalent about or hostile towards the pregnancy. Gestation is supposed to be a collaborative process with mother and child working together to create the placenta and to nourish the growing embryo and fetus. The mother's reward - if all goes according to Nature's plan - is a feeling of supreme well-being fostered by her own changed body chemistry and the energy and emotions flowing towards her from the developing child within her.
But if the mother - either consciously or unconsciously because of her own suppressed and forgotten womb trauma - is rejecting, uninterested or conflicted about the pregnancy she and the baby inside her feel as if they are competing for resources. If she smokes, drinks alcohol, coffee or tea, eats too much sugar or animal protein thus acidifying her blood, or produces cascades of stress hormones there is literally not enough oxygen in her blood for both of them. Pregnancy becomes a zero-sum game (with the more the one gets the less there is for the other) instead of the win-win situation it is meant to be.
When you consider that all capitalism reflects this sad reality you begin the realize how difficult this will be to change. Women would have to deal with their anger about their own histories - which they'd also have to make a difficult and painful attempt to remember - before conceiving and giving birth. Moreover pregnancy, birth and neonatal care would have to be broadly supported by our society and promoted to the place of main events - not sideshows - in our lives.
COLLABORATION
Our first experience of collaboration is building the placenta with our mother. In utero fetus and mother must work together, each contributing cells, to build this vital supply line for fetal life. Building starts around the beginning of the second month in the womb and goes on until the end of the third month.
If the mother and her body are willing and prepared for this a child's first experience of collaboration is that it is a rewarding as well as necessary part of life and that people can be trusted to cooperate with you.
If the mother and her body do not participate fully and lovingly in this task the fetus must work overtime and give more than it can healthily afford to. The lesson is that collaborative tasks are dangerous and draining and that collaborators can't be trusted.
THE DISOBEDIENT OR "PROVOCATIVE" CHILD
Sometimes you'll witness a scene where a child has been told specifically not to do something and then goes ahead and does it - or initiates some other kind of behavior like hitting or biting - seeimingly just to "provoke" a parent or other adult. What the child is actually trying to do in this apparently self-defeating act (self-defeating because of the wrath and punishment that inevitably follows) is to bring out into the open the hostility he feels from the adult which the adult has been more-or-less successfully hiding from others but showing to the child through looks, tone of voice or patterns of neglect.
Although the child may get hurt by the adult's response there is also a relief from having the danger out in the open and manifest.
THE ROOTS OF TORTURE
What troubles me in all the uproar about torture and the truly horrifying things done "in our name" is that no one asks the question, "Who are the torturers and why do they do it?" And by torturers I mean not just the people who humiliated, abused and in some cases murdered our helpless prisoners but the people who thought up the treatments and approved their use.
To me this is the essential question. I believe the answer is that these people - and I include our former president, vice president, attorney general and everyone down the line to the psychologists, CIA operatives and military personnel involved - were themselves tortured when they were helpless prisoners of their parents, i.e., in the womb and as infants and small children. No one who has NOT suffered in this way would have any impulse to make another helpless being do so.
In typical, sadly human fashion their fear and rage at those who have threatened them is directed NOT at all-powerful Mommy and Daddy - the real terrorists of their lives - but at people weaker than themselves. Of course this is unconscious which makes it so very dangerous.
Their fear - that someone wants them dead, envies them for what they have, resents their freedom - is all very real but tragically misplaced in time and space. But since it never feels safe for them to bring it into consciousness no matter how many "terrorists" they kill or punish or from whom they extract information they will never feel safe. The information they really want is from their parents. It's "Why did you reject me and turn me into the terrified person I am today?" The "others -" the co-conspirators - are the friends, grandparents and other relatives who kept quiet or participated in the torturing themselves.
Of course it's important for the BIG parent - the government - to make torture illegal and see that the laws against it are enforced. But it's also important for people to understand what makes a torturer and to see that these people are exposed in their disease and healed.
Good guy or stealthy bad guy ? I dont know yet, but I like it so far after reading these excerpts.
http://juliemotz.com/Home_Page.html
excerpt below from
http://juliemotz.com/Groups.html
INSOMNIA
I've been thinking with increasing frustration about all the misguided attempts to cure insomnia - the sleep clinics, the sleeping pills, the "scientific" studies, etc. No one ever asks the sufferer, "What was going on in your family at night when you were lying in bed, trying to sleep?" Or, even more pointedly, "Who might have come into your room at night to disturb your sleep when you were a child?"
In my experience insomnia is very often a symptom of childhood sexual abuse. It is tension in the body that keeps people watchful and awake - the tension of tendons frozen in place trying to keep muscles from moving. The movement would bring to consciousness memories of what really happened at night - and these memories are forbidden by the need to survive in the family which we carry with us long after we are grown.
"FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILDREN"
My mother kept my father by keeping his secrets – superficially that he was a Communist but more profoundly that he was molesting his children.
I now believe that many people who fight bitterly or are clearly unhappy with each other but stay together “for the sake of the children” are doing so because at least one of them is molesting the children and the other has tacitly agreed to keep the secret.
THE ROOTS OF COMPETITION
Competition begins in the womb at the moment of implantation when a mother is ambivalent about or hostile towards the pregnancy. Gestation is supposed to be a collaborative process with mother and child working together to create the placenta and to nourish the growing embryo and fetus. The mother's reward - if all goes according to Nature's plan - is a feeling of supreme well-being fostered by her own changed body chemistry and the energy and emotions flowing towards her from the developing child within her.
But if the mother - either consciously or unconsciously because of her own suppressed and forgotten womb trauma - is rejecting, uninterested or conflicted about the pregnancy she and the baby inside her feel as if they are competing for resources. If she smokes, drinks alcohol, coffee or tea, eats too much sugar or animal protein thus acidifying her blood, or produces cascades of stress hormones there is literally not enough oxygen in her blood for both of them. Pregnancy becomes a zero-sum game (with the more the one gets the less there is for the other) instead of the win-win situation it is meant to be.
When you consider that all capitalism reflects this sad reality you begin the realize how difficult this will be to change. Women would have to deal with their anger about their own histories - which they'd also have to make a difficult and painful attempt to remember - before conceiving and giving birth. Moreover pregnancy, birth and neonatal care would have to be broadly supported by our society and promoted to the place of main events - not sideshows - in our lives.
COLLABORATION
Our first experience of collaboration is building the placenta with our mother. In utero fetus and mother must work together, each contributing cells, to build this vital supply line for fetal life. Building starts around the beginning of the second month in the womb and goes on until the end of the third month.
If the mother and her body are willing and prepared for this a child's first experience of collaboration is that it is a rewarding as well as necessary part of life and that people can be trusted to cooperate with you.
If the mother and her body do not participate fully and lovingly in this task the fetus must work overtime and give more than it can healthily afford to. The lesson is that collaborative tasks are dangerous and draining and that collaborators can't be trusted.
THE DISOBEDIENT OR "PROVOCATIVE" CHILD
Sometimes you'll witness a scene where a child has been told specifically not to do something and then goes ahead and does it - or initiates some other kind of behavior like hitting or biting - seeimingly just to "provoke" a parent or other adult. What the child is actually trying to do in this apparently self-defeating act (self-defeating because of the wrath and punishment that inevitably follows) is to bring out into the open the hostility he feels from the adult which the adult has been more-or-less successfully hiding from others but showing to the child through looks, tone of voice or patterns of neglect.
Although the child may get hurt by the adult's response there is also a relief from having the danger out in the open and manifest.
THE ROOTS OF TORTURE
What troubles me in all the uproar about torture and the truly horrifying things done "in our name" is that no one asks the question, "Who are the torturers and why do they do it?" And by torturers I mean not just the people who humiliated, abused and in some cases murdered our helpless prisoners but the people who thought up the treatments and approved their use.
To me this is the essential question. I believe the answer is that these people - and I include our former president, vice president, attorney general and everyone down the line to the psychologists, CIA operatives and military personnel involved - were themselves tortured when they were helpless prisoners of their parents, i.e., in the womb and as infants and small children. No one who has NOT suffered in this way would have any impulse to make another helpless being do so.
In typical, sadly human fashion their fear and rage at those who have threatened them is directed NOT at all-powerful Mommy and Daddy - the real terrorists of their lives - but at people weaker than themselves. Of course this is unconscious which makes it so very dangerous.
Their fear - that someone wants them dead, envies them for what they have, resents their freedom - is all very real but tragically misplaced in time and space. But since it never feels safe for them to bring it into consciousness no matter how many "terrorists" they kill or punish or from whom they extract information they will never feel safe. The information they really want is from their parents. It's "Why did you reject me and turn me into the terrified person I am today?" The "others -" the co-conspirators - are the friends, grandparents and other relatives who kept quiet or participated in the torturing themselves.
Of course it's important for the BIG parent - the government - to make torture illegal and see that the laws against it are enforced. But it's also important for people to understand what makes a torturer and to see that these people are exposed in their disease and healed.